May 19, 2020
If you’ve recently got engaged, then I’d like to say a big “congratulations” to both you and your other half! I know how exciting it feels, but I can also empathise with how much your mind might be racing and overflowing right now. Luckily, I know I can help you to organise your thoughts and move forward calmly and happily. So let’s get planning your wedding day.
Getting engaged can be a surreal experience, especially if you had no idea that your significant other was planning to pop the question! You might find yourself sharing the news with family and friends before you’ve had enough time to get your own head around it. It can be a life changing feeling with plenty of emotions combining and colliding at once – love, surprise, joy, happiness, excitement but also touches of anxiety and panic. It can be overwhelming to think about what your next steps should be and how soon they should be taken.
In my opinion, the first and most important step is to enjoy your moment in your own way! That might mean momentarily keeping the news between you and your loved one whilst quietly clinking champagne glasses at home. It might involve shouting “we’re getting married!” from the rooftops. It might mean partying straight away, delaying that until much later down the line or having a much smaller and personal celebration. Perhaps you’d rather take a step back from the craziness to write about how you feel. However you do it, make sure you take the time to enjoy it. It’s your life change and your news to celebrate. It’s often easy to get carried away with what other people want for you, so remember that this is an experience for the two of you to enjoy however you both wish to.
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The ideal place to go right now is right here – The Webbing Fayre! As a localised wedding fayre, it is the perfect platform for you to meet wedding suppliers in your region!
In terms of what to buy first, a wedding journal should be right at the top of your shopping list. When you feel ready of course! There are so many different kinds that you can buy; fancy ones; simplistic ones and personalised ones to name but a few. They really do enable you to get your head into the wedding game. I definitely recommend investing in one. It is so helpful to have everything in one place – your to-do lists, budget details and so on.
Your journal is the place to turn when you feel overwhelmed. It will definitely keep you calm and focused on the finer details of your big day. They also make great keepsakes for years to come! Not only do they allow you to remember your wedding day itself, but they enable you to reflect on how you felt throughout the planning process.
Once you’ve started to use your wedding journal, your engagement news will have sunk in. It allows you to move from being engaged and into actually planning your big day. The researching and talking side of things should naturally follow.
My key piece of advice is to chat to other people and ask them questions. Speak to your friends and family members that are already married. Talk to your parents or grandparents. Ask them what worked on their big day and what didn’t. Ask them if they had any wedding-related regrets, and finally ask suppliers for their views and experiences too.
The easiest way to ascertain the kind of wedding that is exactly right for you is to talk about those of other people’s. You might find yourself politely nodding along but thinking “that idea is not for me!” or better still, you might feel a lightbulb going off in your mind as you experience a live inspiration for your own big day.
After you’ve established the type of wedding you are going for, the next step is to evidently choose your venue and book your date. It is at that point that things get super real. You are actually getting married! Again, excitement and anxiety will hit you in unison. The best way to tackle any bubbling worry is to book a few wedding suppliers.
I would definitely advise that you book as many as you can afford to and as far in advance as possible. It will set your mind at rest and alleviate any unnecessary stresses you might have. I know I completely panicked when I first booked my wedding. Yet once I had our photographer, I instantly felt relieved. I could rest assure that my wedding photographs were going to be amazing.
After that, I secured my favourite make-up artist and hairdresser. Again, I felt a weight off my shoulders. I knew I would look and feel my best in those all-important photos. You really don’t appreciate the relief of having your suppliers booked until you actually secure them. I can assure you it’s a great feeling! It makes the process far more enjoyable from that point on.
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My last piece of advice is to continue following your list and planning your day in a way that is best for you. It might help you to start mood boards or mind maps of ideas. You might enjoy physically drawing up your own designs.
Don’t forget to keep referring back to your wedding journal and ask for help and advice when you need it. Ticking things off your to-do list as you go is a must, too. The smaller your list gets, the closer you will feel to your dream wedding. Your anxiety will dissipate and excitement will override.
Always remember to remain focused on the type of wedding that you and your other half want. Get brave and push back if any of your friends or family start to pressure you. Work towards that very moment where you both say “I will.” Think about how amazing it will feel to know that you are doing so in a way that is just perfect for the two of you.
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